I was browsing the dating apps while in a small city in the Midwest. I must’ve swiped left(swiped no) on at least a hundred profiles.
I swiped left so many times that I was waiting for Bumble to tell me that I had reached the bottom of the list of potential matches.
Why did I swipe left on all of these guys?
For two reasons…
- Every single one of them had the same bad selfie for their main photo(a subject for another email).
- Most of them used the space in their profile to tell me that they were “never married and had no kids”.
Out of all of the things he could’ve chosen to tell me about his interesting life, he chose to tell me the most basic facts that I could have learned on a first date.
Of course that information is important but I can read that in the "basic info" section of any dating app, so why say it again?
The good news is that it made swiping left very easy for me and allowed me to narrow in on the potential matches who had something interesting to say in their profile.
The bad news is that if this is how a man approaches profile writing he is missing so many matches with high-quality women online.
Here’s how important a profile is to women:
If a man's profile stands out but she thinks his photos are just okay she’ll actually do a double take on his photos and re-frame them in her mind as more attractive. Yes really!
That’s because women are much less visual than men when it comes to attraction. Yes, we want to be attracted to a man visually, but it’s his personality that makes us more attracted!
And when it comes to online dating the way he communicates his personality is with his words. So instead of telling us basic facts, tell us about your love of fine bourbon, or about your favorite board game, or your love of science. You are unique! We want to know this about you. This is what gives your personality dimension. This is what makes you stand out from the rest and makes you attractive to us. This is what makes you an easy swipe right on dating apps. I love giving my clients a competitive edge online. Writing a creative, magnetic profile is what I do in my program The Confident Man.I give you the skills to attract high quality women online quickly and easily. ...And the confidence to smoothly interact with these women both online and offline. You can apply for the program here!
And get results like...
Pat who met his gorgeous girlfriend on okcupid after moving to a new city(oh yeah and she sent the first message)
Or JT who swore up and down that he would never try online dating and after we wrote his profile matched with his stunning latin bride only after going on one other date.
Or Hector who created an abundant dating life with a slew of international women on Bumble before finally choosing the perfect woman for him.
with gratitude, |
