Staying connected to ourselves while in relationship is one of the most challenging and strangely counter-intuitive things to do.
Often we'll find ourselves "over there" with them
Trying to figure out what they want...
How they'll respond...
What they'll do....
We fear loss
Deeply
Loss of connection
Loss of love
But we have already lost
That connection with ourselves
Because we are so concerned about something we have no control over
Them
When we can come back
Acknowledge the fear
Acknowledge the uncertainty
Acknowledge that there is an eternal variable in the equation...
The other
The one who cannot be forced, cajoled, manipulated, controlled...
Though, we try in vain
We can come back
home to ourselves
To our own bodies
To our values
To the connection within
That's right there
waiting for us... in... every... moment
It is then
We gain
everything
For in our connection with ourselves
We can reconcile our fear
Soothe our anxiety
Remember that "human aloneness experience"
that we don't think anyone else understands
It is in this connection
That we find
Them
It is here...
We stop seeing "other" as so strange
We then know what they want because we want the same
We worry less about how they'll respond because we have softened
And hell we're doing the best we can
And we learn that what they'll do matters less
Because we know that we will always be okay
Happy Saturday!
Happy October!
Happy Connecting!
💜
with gratitude,
Katya
