| Hey Friend, its your coach, Katya!
I see this common but contradictory pattern in successful men who are dating…
That I find really takes away from his power.
The pattern is being wishy-washy or flippy-floppy(that’s the technical term, of course 😉)
Examples…
Someone clearly shows no interest in you… so you say you’re going to be friends… but secretly will jump at the chance to be with her if she changes her mind. So you don’t commit to the friendship and you don’t walk away, either.
You know that you can create an amazing date experience for a woman and you have the perfect idea… but then will defer to her if you catch any hint of dissatisfaction.
You want to commit to a relationship but you go back and forth about it instead of taking a stand for what you want.
Etc.
YOU are committed, driven and direct in so many other areas of your life.
...and those are wonderful qualities about you.
Something that women really adore!
Don’t dilly-dally here!
Its unbecoming.
I say, just go for it!
Take a chance.
...Maybe you’ll fall flat on your face…. But I bet you won't because after all you are highly capable.
And even if you do, so what!
At least you tried.
You learned something.
You went after what you wanted.
Or you fully let go of something that wasn’t working.
Either way… it’s an important lesson.
Because when you “commit” you know what you stand for.
When you say “fuck yes” or “fuck no” that communicates more about who you are than about who they are!
...and there’s nothing sexier than a man who knows he is and who goes for what he wants.
with gratitude,
Katya
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