| “Well, it’s kinda low energy…”
“It’s more like a conversation than a presentation…”
“Try being a little more like ____. She’s figured out a good level of energy, tone, and inflection…”
I’m always open to constructive criticism, and the person offering this had every good and loving intention toward me when giving me feedback on my recent Facebook LIVES.
And… they had no idea they were helping me make a final decision about my inner and upcoming outer upgrades.
I am always working on my insides -- to create more alignment and integrity -- but my Co-Author tends to write in some huge plot twist every two years or so. A betrayal. An attack. A shocking retreat experience. A strange new issue with one, but usually many, of my clients.
I’ve learned that this is a sign: it’s time to upgrade.
I start on the inside. What’s my responsibility in this showing up?
What part of me is screaming for attention?
What can I do to bring more of ME to my life and work?
And inevitably, my answers to that inspire changes on the outside. If I’m to take responsibility for this, then what do I need to change out there?
Initial conversations and disclaimers?
Contract language? Messaging and marketing?
Well, I’m in one of those years. And let me tell you, it’s… bittersweet.
I’ve spent the last year wrestling and integrating pieces of myself that I had shoved into corners in order to stay safe, fit in, and succeed.
You know what I’m talking about, right? That thing we do when the world constantly tells us that we have to “be more like ______” to do what we want to do
-- make friends, find a partner, grow a business, raise a happy child? We tend to ignore our own impulses and adapt to the matrix or formula that appears to work for everyone else.
But eventually, we hit a [usually painful] moment in time when those parts of ourselves that got shoved into the background get resentful enough that they start to create some chaos and beg for attention, resolution, and integration.
So, this last year, I’ve been working to liberate my unapologetic, unscripted, smart-mouthed, hilarious self. [I know. I bet most of you had no idea she exists, right?]
Of course, I’ve been doing it in the safety of my personal relationships and, of course, with clients who are already in the deep end of transformation with me.
In the background, I’ve been preparing the “outsides.” A new website that captures ALL of the work I do with people -- messaging and st*ry-healing. A new CRM system that makes it easier to stay in touch with people and grow my audience. Several new books in the works and a bestseller campaign for the one I’m working on with my son. Plus A TON OF NEW CONTENT to support people who want to create change in the world but find themselves feeling upside-down -- confused, distracted, angry, depressed, anxious, sick, overwhelmed with relationship or financial problems -- every time they try to move forward.
So, of course I got this feedback!
As I begin to share one of these new programs and put MORE OF ME out there, I get this kind of feedback… telling me that I gotta be more like _____ to do it.
Well, I have some feedback for the feedback.
There is no going back.
I don’t want to sacrifice parts of myself to get somewhere.
That’s an old st*ry that I refuse to live in anymore.
New story…
I am already bringing MORE OF ME and am committed to embodying more as it emerges. And frankly, I've learned what happens when I push myself too fast, so I'm not doing that anymore either. And hey, people can resonate with me or not -- they can stay or go.
I guess you could consider that a little bit of a warning. [LOL] And an invitation...
If you have been sacrificing parts of yourself and getting nowhere -- or worse, succeeding and feeling like a fraud -- I want to invite you to check out this new Write to Right the World program that starts Sunday, November 1st.
I’ve posted a few prompts on Facebook so people can test out the process and see if it’s a fit, and I’ve already received feedback on the transformational power of this program. The first prompt was: When feeling uncertain, I typically (behavior)… The superpowers I lean on when feeling uncertain are… The kryptonite that typically takes me down is…
And here is the message I received from someone who wrote for 20 minutes: I’ve found these prompts very enlightening. It’s actually already helped me change my
course of action, saving me from what I typically do. I realized that indecision translates
as uncertainty for me and vice versa. So, when I’m feeling uncertain, I wanna make a decision.
Some decision. Any decision. Just decide something. Make something -- ANYTHING -- certain.
I hold on to that decision, cling to it, throw myself into it. And when that decision is
undone due to mainly external forces, I experience such relief.
A relief I wasn’t even consciously aware I was needing. Decision-making is a superpower.
I’m not afraid. And it ends up being my kryptonite, too. And after the prompt about mentoring, the same person wrote me a tearful text of gratitude, expressing that she had just uncovered an internal war that has been preventing her from stepping into the leadership she feels called to in this lifetime.That’s the kind of awareness that catapults someone out of an old st*ry and into a plot line that they have the conscious ability to influence. After only 20 minutes?I mean, what would happen if we did this TOGETHER… for 90 days!? Wanna join us? Oh, and if you bring a friend, you get a big discount!
Click HERE for more information.
We can right the world together...
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Smart-Mouthed Seeker | Unapologetic Story Junkie | Message Oracle | Messenger Guide
Mom | Wife | Friend | Witness to Divine Intention through Story
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